What exactly is an orgasm or a full bodied orgasm?
Can you Believe you Can Experience a Full Body Orgasmic Feeling Without a Traditional Emission? For me, as a tantric educator and evolving intimacy coach, the purpose of experiencing various orgasmic states within our own being is to experience our true divine nature. An orgasmic state is one of transcending our self identified awareness to a greater life force energy that feeds us on every level.
So, orgasm is a higher state of consciousness than our normal waking consciousness. Some people actually hold their breath upon the beginning of their orgasmic flow. This constricts the energy body and can be a way to unconsciously attempt to not lose control into the bigger energy feeling. Holding the breath, tightening the leg muscles and tensing the body upon orgasm is restriciting the orgasm from being felt fully in the body.
Tantra practice shows you with breath awareness you can oxygenate the body and build more natural chi flow. This energizes the body instead of depleting it. Adding sound toning naturally opens the throat and as the throat opens and relaxes, the body follows. Sound increases the vibratory frequency of the body. Which in turn, heightens our sense of awareness and our senses can become fine tuned to this higher frequency. Then, with slower movement we enter a zone of the present moment where time appears disappear into tantratime.
Relaxing into our natural state of being is only possible by being willing to relax and let go of body and emotional control. Allowing an inner marriage of the dance between shiva and shakti. The yang and yin energies of our inner most nature. The kundalini life force energy then can dance up along our spine and nourish and provide more awareness to this merging of energies.
As this alchemy of breath, sound and movement energize our inner chi flow, we are given the opportunity to open our awareness to the reality of merging into a more expanded state in which our body becomes an instrument of divine life force energy. When we open and merge with another from this open hearted state, unity consciousness can be experienced inwardly.
Tantra means a weaving of energies."Tantra is a spiritual path that embraces the physical universe as a manifestation of the divine. Each individual first finds that divinity within, and then shares with his or her partner the sacred awareness of authentic presence." D.Daffner This is what the phrase "YOU ARE THE BELOVED YOU SEEK" means.
"Tantra involves learning to sense, recognize and respect the flow of sexual energy., to open to that energy, to receive it and deliberately nurture its upward movement as it is transformed into an experience of blissful oneness. It's not just about 'lasting longer' but about taking the time to enjoy a cosmic journey." D. Daffner
I am choosing to quote Diana because I don't feel I can say it any clearer and she is living this reality with her beloved: "We all have ecstatic moments when separation magically dissolves, releasing us from our limited perception of who we are. Such moments take place spontaneously, for example when an exquisite environment moves us deeply. Or when we first fall in love. Tantra helps us to consciously create and sustain a dynamic shift into that longed-for state of union. For a couple melting together in an ocean of pure love, Tantra removes the need to ask, 'was it good for you?'"
Energy and Orgasms Orgasmic states are wonderful to experience and a challenge to describe in words to the mind.Tantric practice and actual experience facilitates you coming to the realization that ejaculation and orgasm are two totally different experiences. Because of our limited experience and conditioned sexual behaviors, belief and experience has been that because a man ejaculates, he orgasms. Not so. Because a man opens his energy system with breathing and relaxation, he can begin to open to various levels of orgasmic states of consciousness that have nothing to do with having an erection or ejaculating.
A man's true inner power resides in his inner awareness and experiencing this inner electrical, dynamic power and then learning to radiate this inner presence with a partner and in the work place. This inner light exudes radiant power and is what brings inner peace and freedom.
Too many emissions and just focusing on friction and release eventually creates imbalance in the body and depletes natural chi and dries a person up; emotionally as well as physically.
About the Author Diana Richardson is the author of The Heart of Tantric Sex and a teacher and practitioner of holistic body therapies. Born in South Africa, she became the disciple of tantric Master Osho in India in 1979. She is now based in Europe and travels extensively with her partner, hosting weeklong retreats for couples in tantric lovemaking.
3 Orgasm Versus Orgasmic The nature of female orgasm is not easily generalized--quite possibly there are as many kinds of orgasm as there are women having them. Even so, in order to understand the nature of feminine energy it is helpful to look at orgasm from a number of angles. Orgasm can be loosely divided into two categories--peak orgasm or valley orgasm. Naturally there can be a whole range of experiences between a peak and a valley, but what distinguishes one type from the other is the very basis of each type--the peak orgasm depends on an active building up of excitement and the valley orgasm rises into excitement through a state of complete relaxation. From the very outset the approach and attitude is different. We tend to actively seek and “go for” the peak type of orgasm, to deliberately build it up. Achieving a peak orgasm becomes a linear, goal-oriented activity requiring a mental intention to get from one place to another. We assume that we need to do whatever is necessary to keep moving toward our final destination--the peak. A valley experience is more like an invitation without an expectation or demand of orgasm. Something may or may not happen. The final outcome is not an issue, rather the focus is on the joy of the moment--being here and now in the body--which allows the journey to unfold without a predetermined direction. In place of pursuing an orgasm there is an openness to and acceptance of what is taking place in the body, which creates the sensitivity necessary for an orgasmic valley experience to emerge. To arrive at a peak orgasm we must usually expend considerable physical effort. The aim is to intensify the stimulation and bring the deliciously exciting sensations into one glorious crescendo. This involves repeated mechanical movements of the pelvis, which get faster and faster toward the end. This activity is necessary in order to build energy to a peak but at the same time it also builds up a lot of tension, which compresses the energy into the genitals. In contrast, to allow a valley experience to flower we need to do everything very slowly in the most relaxed, languid, lazy way possible. We avoid deliberate doing and abandon any movements or positions producing tensions. The penetration of the vagina by the penis is deliberately slow, and so are all the pelvic movements. This relaxation between the genitals encourages a radiation and expansion of energy into other parts of the body. The peak orgasm is usually quite a hot affair. In the valley things are a lot cooler. Any pleasurable moments of excitation can be enjoyed for what they are, but they will be followed by minutes of relaxation, not fed and inflamed into a climax as in the peak orgasm. Through slowing down into a more non-doing approach and bringing awareness to internal movements of energy, an inner sensitivity awakens which has little to do with excitement or stimulation. This sensitivity reveals in the body a layer of magnetic excitation that is cool, cellular, and ecstatic. A buildup of excitement is not even really required for a relaxed orgasmic experience. Another way in which a peak orgasm will differ from a valley orgasm is the duration of the experience. A peak orgasm is estimated to last, on a good day, a maximum of ten seconds. So we can say a peak experience has a pretty definite start and finish. This makes it more like an event--we “have an orgasm,” or not, as the case may be. In contrast, the valley orgasm is a more sustained state, a timeless experience without a specific start or finish. It can be five seconds or five hours, the time span is irrelevant--the experience the same. In a valley orgasm, an ecstatic peace descends upon us, surrounds us, embraces us, we are suspended in it--we “become orgasmic.” It is an expanded state of consciousness--not a momentary event recordable in seconds. Relaxation lies at the very base of any enhancement of experience, so relaxation and more satisfying orgasm go hand in hand. All orgasms, conventional peak orgasms and otherwise, are enhanced by relaxation. Any relaxation of any body part (even if only briefly) invites the expansion of energy on which all orgasm and heightened experiences are based. Relaxation spontaneously leads to more inner awareness, increased bodily sensitivity, and more psychological openness. And relaxation automatically gives rise to qualities that are essential to feminine energy. Especially for woman, relaxation is essential because it moves her away from the active outward male kind of _expression, which is required for conventional orgasm, and puts her unquestionably into the receptive feminine mode. Often the effort expended in attempting to create orgasm blocks the very sensitivity necessary for orgasm to occur. In our effort to “get there,” our movements become faster and harder, more and more unconscious and aggressive, decreasing our sensitivity with each move we make. In contrast, an orgasmic state, or any orgasm achieved through relaxation for that matter, engages the genuine, deep-rooted, feminine energies of a woman, which allow the orgasm to be a fully satisfying full-body experience. Orgasm is not necessarily a huge explosion, a volcanic eruption. It can also be a cool, peaceful, calm, relaxing valley where the body floats as light as a feather, dissolving into love-drenched nothingness. It can be the experience of eternity, beyond time, suspended in space by breath, one with the pulsation of life. It also happens as if by miracle, that from this depth of relaxation a peak of energy arises, but without any effort at all. A subtle force rises slowly and steadily from the depths moving into a sexual dance, as if choreographed by a divine energy passing through the bodies.
Product Description: Exploring Tantra from the female perspective, Diana Richardson reveals the critical role of receptive feminine energy. Her 20 years of tantric research provides an understanding of how women can exert a powerful influence on their sexual experiences when they understand the inner workings of their bodies and avoid adopting conventional ideas about what should be satisfying to them.